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This piece of writing was part of an article I’m writing, about how I would help someone answering the question of “what do I want to do”, where I discuss how to pick a major and what helps you to define the way you contribute to this world. I found the draft of the article to be very lengthy, I may expected the reader to be aware of different notions upfront, so I preferred this topic to be referenced here. As many of my drafts are pointing to it.

There were parts of my childhood and teenage years when I found myself visiting what I now think of as the cave of disparity. I was fortunate enough to find my way out. much of the credit goes to one essential shift that guided me toward stability if I my say: I stopped over-complaining about my condition and began paying attention to how my thoughts were shaping my state of being.

What is the bravest thing you’ve ever said? Help. Asking for help isn’t giving up. It’s refusing to give up. ― Charlie Mackesy

if you don’t schedule a break, your body will take one for you, and it probably won’t be at a convenient time.

Sister Calderon: I don’t know but..whenever we happen to meet you’re always helping people and smiling.

“I think it’s important for people to present themselves as they are, which is messy, because to present yourself as perfect sets up an unfair standard for other people to live by.”
— Simon Sinek

I had a friend I met online who struggled with social anxiety. He used to tell me how he panicked at the idea of going to the university. I knew he wasn’t lying, but part of me couldn’t truly believe it, that a psychological disorder could control someone that much. I was telling him: you just needed to stop overthinking that people will hurt you, remind yourself there’s no reason to be afraid, and call it a day. Yes, I was ignorant. I tried to convince him to change something he couldn’t change, to “overcome it,” as if these were only voices in his head.

The velocity at which I’m updating my beliefs about the world has never been known to be slow; saying “Oops” and updating my beliefs implies updating my behavior if needed. This oscillating pattern of behavior has been defining the kind and amount of love I receive in this world, updating a behavior is either bringing me joy by interacting with people, loving myself, or appreciating the world, or has led me to a series of overwhelm led by the need to solve the questions I’m cornered with.

I used to think that if someone starts thinking about “quitting something,” then they are already declining, and there won’t be a lot of time until they quit. Here, I’m interested in quitting things you once desired or set for yourself, out of reliable or reliable intrinsic or extrinsic motivator.

There’s a point at which everything you learn requires you to learn the opposite thing. If you learn to be patient, then eventually you’ll need to learn when to be impatient.
If you learn to control your anger, then you’ll have to learn when it’s good to be angry. And if you learn to be gentle, then you must learn when to put up a fight.
Life isn’t made up of a set of solutions for you to find.
It’s built on extreme behaviors you learn to balance.

Josh Terry