learning the opposite

There’s a point at which everything you learn requires you to learn the opposite thing. If you learn to be patient, then eventually you’ll need to learn when to be impatient.
If you learn to control your anger, then you’ll have to learn when it’s good to be angry. And if you learn to be gentle, then you must learn when to put up a fight.
Life isn’t made up of a set of solutions for you to find.
It’s built on extreme behaviors you learn to balance.

Josh Terry

one of the lenses that helped me navigate life with sharp critique is the mindsets that I adapted over time .

Learning techniques, life lessons, whatsoever, whatever someone learns as a new framework will leak elsewhere. almost everything is a response to something.

When we cave in from an old mechanism to a new one, we will sometimes ignore the good parts founded in the earlier mechanism, and take the new one to the extreme, as if we finally found our salvation; the salvation from the problem is in it.

but what is there is a furious fear of the disappointment or misery brought by the first mechanism.

often this can be a coping mechanism.

as I once shared my concerns about how my friends are adapting mindsets they don’t see when they backfire on them. learning the opposite sometimes is essential. and not clinging so hard to it is the utmost priority.

people get blinded by the glaze of the new mechanism or mindset, and they don’t realize how they are misusing it.