I Don’t Have A Type

People often mistake my quiet and nerdy appearance for having a specific type. they assume I prefer introverted friends, or that I naturally gravitate toward people who love science, numbers, psychology, and all the things I seem to be interested in. they think similarity is the easiest way to reach me.

But the truth is much simpler than that. I do not have a particular type of people. I am not picky about my friends. in fact, most of my friends are quite the opposite of me. they are loud, playful, extroverted, and often into anything but science and numbers. and I genuinely enjoy that. I do not need similarity to feel connected.

Sometimes I even feel sorry. when disciplined and nerdy people approach me thinking that if they talk about technical topics or intellectual ideas, that will automatically interest me and create a bridge between us. when I am not fully engaged, I feel like I am disappointing them. I do not like that feeling.

The reality is that I do not enjoy building friendships on shared intellectual interests alone. science stimulates me at university. technical discussions stimulate me at work. when we are building something real, solving a problem, or working toward truth with purpose, I enjoy it deeply. but in my free time, I do not want endless speculative conversations just because we appear similar on the surface.

It is not that those topics are not interesting. it is that most of the time, they turn into subjective debates that go nowhere. if we are not approaching truth or creating something meaningful, I would rather not have that conversation.

What actually makes me happiest is much simpler. I enjoy when someone shares their day with me. sends me a meme. talks about ordinary life. respects personal space. that kind of connection feels more genuine to me than intellectual similarity.

We can be nerdy at work. but friendship, for me, is about something deeper.

I do not care what kind of person you are. quiet or loud. intellectual or playful. high energy or calm. I will not judge you based on your surface. I do not assume anything about people before knowing them.

But please understand this clearly. I build bonds based on who people are, not what they do. based on core values, not visible interests. based on how they treat others, not how well they match the version of me you think you see.

And please avoid trying to reach me through my surface identity. the quiet one. the nerd. the disciplined one. that is only a fraction of who I am. you don’t know who I am.